Mom-Friday's Entry About Marriage

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Alvin and I will celebrating our first year anniversary on September 19. Time flies no? Parang kelan lang pinipilit ko lang siya na we become an official couple na then now we're approaching one year of marriage! Haha!

Bakit nagpakipot pa ang Alvin?

To those who didn't get to follow our love life, I needed to practically convince Alvin that my bachelorette days are really over. That I'm already tired and done with having relationships after relationships after relationships after relationships. That I really wanted to finally settle down and I wanted to settle down with no one else but him. I dunno nga why he wouldn't believe me eh I'm such a good girl. (Okay bestfriends, you can all stop gagging now. Especially you Arnaiz! haha!)

Anyways, coincidentally while I was blog-hopping, I came across this entry by Mom-Friday. It talks about having a good relationship with your spouse is vital to child rearing. See here, I came kasi from a broken family. I swore to myself that I will never ever let that happen if I had my own family na. Based on experience, the children are the ones who suffer talaga eh. Kawawa. Therefore, if I come across anything self-help that will teach me how to be a better wife and mother, I read it talaga. As in super absorb. That's why I highly recommend Mom-Friday's blog entry about His Needs, Her Needs: Marriage in the 21st Century.

I just want to repost here some of the basic things that I learned from that entry:

ONE:

So what are the causes of conflicts and failure in marriage?

1.    Wrong priorities

2.    Absence of strong faith

3.    In-laws and “barkada” (peers) -  meddling of relatives and negative influences by friends and peers

4.    Differences in religion, family and educational background

5.    Infidelity caused by spousal neglect or prolonged absence (i.e. OFWs) that leads to new experience for the waiting spouse

TWO:

On the positive side, a good marital relationship has the following effects on the kids:

1.    Generally happy and feel secure

2.    Feel loved

3.    Do well in school

4.    Emotional and psychological stability

5.    Prevents teenage pregnancy, drug use, alcohol abuse and juvenile delinquency

AND THREE:

The book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley, Jr.

There's a chart daw in this book where they identified the ten most vital needs of men and women. Here it is:

Super informative diba?!  And the chart above is super correct (for me ha?). So to satisfy the needs of Alvin, I have to:

1.) Not be madamot when it comes to you-know-what (tama na ang headache reasons ko! sheeesh!)

2.) Take charge of the household stuff and make him asikaso from now on (in short, wag masamok sa bahay)

3.) Always remind him na super gwapo and smart niya, hehe joke lang. I can let him know that up until now, dead na dead ako sakanya. Joke ulit. Or I should often openly complement him whenever he does something nice (especially infront of his friends, men love that I swear!)

4.) Sige na nga, learn to appreciate camping and mountain climbing (all for the sake of love!)

5.) Make an effort to look pretty and sexy (oo na! i really HAVE to start dieting!)

I'll make him read this entry para makita niya yang chart so he'll know what to do! Haha!

To all my married and soon to be married girlfriends, let's try to buy that book! But as for now, try reading the blog of Mom-Friday first. It's so nice talaga.

Thank you Mom-Friday!