For Your Husbands and Boyfriends

I don't know why I suddenly wanted to write about this. 

Dear Husbands and Boyfriends,

Hello.

You may not know me and for sure would not want to know me (sakit kasi ako sa ulo eh) but there are things that I would like to tell you. I got inspired by this certain article I read at Yahoo! this morning. Totoo siya eh. I want to reiterate some of them here plus adding some more based on my experience.

It is about you and your partners lalo na pagmatagal na kayo. It's about keeping the flame alive. It's about how you can do things to make your wives or girlfriends kilig and happy. 

Compliment the wife or the girlfriend.

Seryoso, you guys just don't know how far a sincere compliment can go. Most couples who have been married for quite some time already, sometimes forget to complement each other na. Men, say something nice to the wifey every now and then. It may be how pretty she looks that day or about the delicious dish she prepared. The important thing is that you have to be specific sa compliment. Malolove namin kayo more =)

Do PDA once in a while.

Hindi naman yung tipong pandidirihan na kayo ng tao pero yung tamang sweet lang. Initiate this, men. Hindi lang halata pero we love it when we feel that you can't get enough of us even in public. Feeling namin ang haba ng hair namin. For example, in public, get her hand then kiss her in front of your friends. Hold hands while walking. Or yung favorite ko: hubby's arm draped around my shoulders while I hug his waist while walking. Mga ganyan.

Hug the ladies from behind.

Sweet ito, promise. Especially when we least expect it. Sabay whisper ng thank you or I love you. Nakakatunaw.

Kiss the forehead.

I dunno if you notice this already but kissing the forehead is very romantic. Hindi siya foreplay levels ha? Pero kissing the forehead means a lot of things. Nandiyan na yung I love you. Nandyan na yung respect. Nandyan na yung I want you to stay. Nandyan na yung "sorry na talaga ako". Nandiyan na yung I'll take care of you. One kiss on the forehead means so much.

If she needs to vent out something, listen.

I know you guys have the innate need to solve all our problems in this world. But when a woman vents out, it's best if you could just listen. Makinig lang kayo. Nod your head in the right time while listening. Abutan niyo ng tissue pag-umiyak. Abutan niyo ng beer, pagbadtrip. Abutan niyo ng shopping money para tumigil na. Chos. 

Brush your teeth before you kiss her.

Or take a bath before snuggling with us in bed. We seriously appreciate that ha. I love being kissed by a minty, newly brushed mouth. Mouth talaga hindi lips di ba?! Hahaha! Sorry. Anyways, I love snuggling to a newly showered Alvin. Ang bango eh. Ang yummy. And for example, I'm asleep na and he snuggles sa akin, I snuggle back lalo na pagbagong ligo. Okay lang magising sa mabangong katabi. Bad trip yung nagising ka na nga tapos amoy di pa naligo yung katabi mo. Di ba?! Seriously guys, make an effort to mind these things for her. Little things matter to us. Abnormal kasi kaming mga babae.

Ogle your wife / girlfriend.

Be sure that she catches you staring at her. Ang hot nun eh. And it makes us feel very, very beautiful and sexy. It also assures us that even after all the childbirth and the ageing, you, guys, still find us appealing. Tingnan niyo, sasarap ang ulam niyo araw araw. Nakaka-inspire kasi eh when you think patay na patay pa din sayo ang asawa mo.

Talk about your wife to other people.

No need na pero if she overhears this, OMG, ang happy ng feeling namin. Tell other people how pretty your wife is.  Tell other people how good your wife is at helping you raise your kids. Tell other people na ang linis ng bahay niyo. Tell other people yung mga achievements ng wife mo that you're proud of. Pagnakaluto lang ng itlog, pagmalaki mo na agad agad.

Converse with her.

As in not just what happened at the office or kung ano ang mga dapat gawin sa bahay but also about you guys. Go back and reminisce your past. Yung mga kalokohan niyo and escapades niyo before. Pagkwentuhan niyo ulit yung how you felt when you first met. What attracted you to her. Eto ang mga kwentong hindi nakakasawang paulit-ulitin. For sure, your ladies would love hearing about this all the time. Nakakakilig kasi eh.

Make time for her.

Take her out on dates. Again, be the one to initiate this para the ladies would feel parang yung dalaga't binata pa kayo. Don't talk about the kids. Don't talk about the grocery or kung ano kailangan ipalengke. Talk about you guys. Talk about your dreams. My suggestion is talk about the places you guys would want to go to. That will be a start.

Out of the blue, touch us.

Eto yung tipong you guys are watching TV, himas himasin niyo yung arm ng misis niyo while watching. Or when you're out with your friends, pagnagkukwentuhan kunwari, casually put your hand over your wife's knee or drape your arm over her shoulder. Or during dinner, hold hands under the table.

Brush her hair off her face.

I love it when a guy fixes my hair. Gulo gulo kasi siya kadalasan. Sa kadaldalan ko, I don't notice it. So it's a very pleasant surprise when out of the blue, the guy brushes the hair away sa fez ko. I know you guys do this especially in the first part of your relationship. Sana kahit matagal na kayo and married na, you still do this to your wives. Ang sweet eh. Ang affectionate. Feeling namin love niyo talaga kami.

Give her gifts once in a while.

Eto pak na pak talaga. Give her something (as in anything), even without occasion. When you go home, surprise her with her favorite cake. When you see each other, give her Chocnut. It doesn't need to be expensive. I have kwento. One day when I arrived at my work desk, I found a Louis Vuitton wallet from Alvin. Isip ako ng isip kung anong okasyon. Wala. He bought me an expensive wallet na walang okasyon. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, "Tiyak may babae ito.". When I asked him about it, he gave me daw a gift because he remembered that I like receiving things without reasons. When he found out na akala ko may babae siya, sabi niya ang hirap ko daw timplahin. Hahahaha. Kaya nga guys, the small gifts need not to be expensive. Baka mapagdudahan pa nga kayo.

Go with her when she goes out with her friends.

When she asks you to accompany her when she goes out with her friends, go. Alam niyo ba kung bakit namin kayo sinasama? It's not only because wala kaming driver but more on, we like showing you off. Ang popogi niyo kasi eh.

Lastly, practice not to be annoyed at us.

Yeah, we know we're not the easiest species to live with but that's not our fault. We were given different hormones. Hormones na nakakaloka most of the time, hence our mood swings. I know that there are times that you guys would already want to jump out of the window because of us but please, please be patient. We can't help it sometimes. Hug us. Rub our backs. Give us a foot massage. Take us to the mall. Give us ice cream. These will truly help and agad agad mawawala yan. And then we'll be more sweeter than ever again. Cycle cycle lang yan mga 'tsong. Ride with us for a more peaceful world.

That's it guys. Okay ba or mas lalo kayong nasiraan ng bait? =)

Oh wait I have to add one last thing:

Initiate making love often.

Yung hindi ano ha umm.. boom boom pak finish. Tandaan, women are like diesel. Matagal yan. Make sure she enjoys it too. Before you know it, she'll be in a better mood most of the time. Malay niyo, it will eliminate the shopping expenses because she would want to be around you most of the time.

Hahahaha!

Love,

Your Mareng