Good morning guys!
Alvin and I are worried about Anika. She's starting to act really strange. Maya maya, sumisigaw. Sinisigawan ako if I don't give her what she wants. Sinisigawan si Girlie if she doesn't give her what she wants. There was also this time, pinalo niya ako because I told her she can't play with her Ipad. Also, she cries agad when she notices that Girlie isn't in the same room with her.
Two weeks ko na yang ina-analyze. I think Anika's copying one of her classmates na medyo magaan yung kamay and who always shouts. We told Girlie that when her classmate does this, bulungan niya si Anika na: "that's not nice or that's bad, don't do that". Ganun.
With the crying naman, the school's trying to wean her off Girlie. They are making Girlie go out of the classroom para hindi na lagi kasama kay Anika. Ayun, iyak daw ng iyak. Nadadala tuloy nung bata hanggang sa bahay. Hindi ko naman kasi alam bakit now lang nila ginawa yun eh. Most of the schools I know did not permit the yayas to go inside the classroom sa first day pa lang. Ayan, wala na sanang ganyang drama na kailangan mangyari.
Anyways, last night when we arrived, Girlie told us that Anika threw a toy at one of her classmates. This shocked me kasi Anika never did that to anybody. Usually, mabait sa bata si Anika. So I went inside our room first.
ME: Anika, usap tayo.
She climbed to the bed with me and sat facing me.
ME: Why did you throw your toy at Ahren?
ANIKA: No!
ME: Yes you did. Ate Girlie said you threw a toy at Ahren kanina. That's bad, baby.
ANIKA: Bihis ako ngayon.
ME: Don't change the topic. That's bad Anika. Look at me. That's bad. Don't do it again.
ANIKA: Sleep ako Nanay.
ME: No. No sleeping yet. Usap pa tayo. Don't do that again anak ha? Promise?
Anika nods her head.
ME: Say promise first.
ANIKA: Promise Nanay.
And then Alvin went inside the room. Natural na malakas ang boses ng asawa ko kaya maybe Anika's more scared of Alvin.
ALVIN: Anika halika nga dito. Usap tayo.
Anika started walking away from him.
ALVIN: ANIKA! I said come here. Usap tayo.
ANIKA (still walking towards the wall): Wait Tatay. Three minutes!
ALVIN: NO. Come here.
ANIKA (with her pointy finger up): Wait Tatay. Three minutes!
Alvin and I were concentrating on not laughing. She looked so serious. Anika went to the corner and sat. Ganun yan pagnahihiya especially when Alvin scolds her.
ALVIN: Why did you do that ha? Di ba that's bad Anika?
Anika's nakasimangot and still sprawled sitting down at our room's corner. She wasn't looking at us.
ALVIN: Don't do that again ha! I will be really mad at you. Anika, do you understand? That's bad.
Anika slowly nodded her head without her looking at us.
ALVIN: Promise?
ANIKA: Promise.
ALVIN: O come here.
Anika got up and walked towards our bed with her head down.
ALVIN: Say promise you won't throw anything at your classmates anymore.
ANIKA: Promise. No throwing classmates.
And after that nagpinkie swear ang magTatay.
I wonder if Anika understood what just happened and if she will not do it again.
*crossing my fingers*
Anyways, I haven't posted an outfit of the day post yet. Parang wala kasi akong masuot. Alvin and Girlie keep on rolling their eyes at me.
For the meantime, I wanna share with you my arm candies for today:
Cutie no? Wowa game me that watch yesterday. I so love it because it matches Alvin's watch! =) The Hermes inspire bracelet (on the left) was bought in Divisoria for Php 100. The white bracelet naman I got from Hailey and Five. They cost Php 100 each too! =)
Osha, today's the last day of my Zen Zest and Lacoste Thank You Giveaway! =) Do join na!! =)
Happy weekend everyone!
Hi Mommy Fleur... Just wanna share my approach when I encounter a similar situation with my kids... Aside from saying "that's bad," I also try to explain further why it's bad, like "It's painful when you hit someone, it must have been ouchie for Ahren" but usually what is more effective is when I turn the situation around, "How would you feel if someone threw a toy at you? You would feel bad too, right?" Usually napapaisip sila pag ginaganon ko sila. Parang "Ah oo nga noh." And if she still repeats the offense after the first warning, implement a corresponding punishment na... na siyempre appropriate and effective for her age. Marami ka pang maeencounter na situations na ganyan as they grow up. And I'm still learning until now. Good luck =)
ReplyDeleteHi Mommy Fleur, i had the same situation what you've been through with my son kaso sa kanya naman verbal language ang naging problema. Sometimes, some kids at school do things they thought was right bacause other parents see them as funny jokes when they act it out. When I heard my son saying "stupid" I was really shocked. I did not talk to him right away, baka kung anong magawa ko. Kaya i calmed myself first, then I asked him where did he picked the word. He said one of his classmates keep on saying that word. Eventhough he is three years old by that time, I tried explaining to him that some things are not meant to say or do even if you got it from school. Kasi di naman lahat ng ginagawa ng classmates nya, dapat gagawin nya rin. In Anika's case, it will bw more easier for you kasi mas mabilis makapick up ang girls kapag napapaliwanagan ng mas maaga. Just be consistent sa mga rules na binibigay sa kanya para she'll be aware when she have done something wrong para hindi nya kalakihan. Hope it may help you somehow. Take care and God bless!
ReplyDeleteHi Mommy Fleur :) I admire you for talking to Anika right away about her behavior. I work in a preschool and a lot of times, parents tend to blame the teachers whenever their kids misbehave. When someone gets hurt, we invite the parents to view the video captured by the CCTV camera and even if we have evidence that their child was at fault, they still insist that it is the fault of the other student who got hurt. One time, a kinder student head-butted one of our teachers. when the parents viewed the video, they said their son was just nodding "yes" and it just so happened that his forehead made contact with the teacher's head- super in denial sila talaga.
ReplyDeletePreschoolers tend to copy the actions of their peers so I hope that Anika will imitate the good actions lang :)