Last weekend, I was talking with one of my kumares. She has a daughter as well but is older than Anika by how many years. We were talking about how difficult it is to raise kids. I know I've already said it here. What you are now-- your ugali, characteristics, how you think, how you tackle your day to day activities, how you decide: these are already in you by the time you were seven years old. This means, the years 0-7 are very important in developing the values ng bata. This also means that your parents or those who were with you growing up and how you were raised, have a great impact on what you are now.
Eto na nga. Pressure di ba? Personally, I want Anika to grow up na may takot sa Diyos. I want her to be strong and independent but with right values intact. I want her na hindi magpapa-api but in the same time, I want her to think of others and care for them. I want her to be really street smart in life. Alam natin na hindi naman talaga yung matatalino lang yung nagsusuceed in life pero yung mga may diskarte sa buhay. I want her to be affectionate and warm.
How do I do it for Anika to be like this? If we become very attentive, baka ma-spoiled or hindi matuto magdecision by themselves. If we let go, they might feel that they are not loved. If we become strict, baka mag-rebelde. If we become lenient, baka mabuntis ng maaga (knock on wood, Diyos ko po!). I know that we should put it all in a balance but where's the line?! Eto ang mga time that I wish pagka-ire ko kay Anika eh may kasamang manual yung bata on how we're supposed to raise her. It's really nakakaloka in the sense na, you always check yourself if what you're doing is right and will really benefit the daughter.
In the end, as my kumare and I concluded this topic, minsan it's all up to the person na din. Prayers will help a lot in raising the kids the right way. Parents make mistake. We will make mistake pero hindi pwedeng walang learnings na kasama. With that, to all parents out there, I wish you all the luck in raising your kids. If you have tips for us, please do let us know =)
Anyways, here's what I'm wearing today:
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| Sweater from Mango, Bench skinny pants and Aldo shoes |
I like this sweater very much. It's very comfortable. I was tempted to buy all the colors pero naghunusdili ako. Mahalia ng konti eh. It's around Php 750 plus ata each. Baka pandilatan na naman ako ng mata ni Sombrero hehe.
Have a nice week you guys! =) End na ng February! Ambilis!!!!
Hi mommy f, I totally understand where you're coming from as I myself have two daughters aged 7 and 5. I wish i could share with you some of my personal insights pero baka bukas na ako matapos nito... but what I could wholeheartedly recommend is the book "Childwise", which SUPER DUPER helped me when my kids were still young. Maniwala ka, every single question you raised above, inaddress talaga nila sa book. It's ALL in there. How to discipline effectively, raise a child na may takot sa Diyos, responsible, loving, and has a sense of independence, among others. Another super wonderful book is "The Power of a Praying Parent" by Stormie Omartian. This book is on my bedside permanently na. With all the uncertainties happening around us, plus the fact that we can't be with our kids 24/7, and the impossibility of us knowing what lies in our kid's future, prayer is really the most important tool we have in covering our children.
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